Valentine’s Day is upon us again. Love is in the air. Soon, many couples will be observing the holiday with a familiar routine; dinner and a movie. But thanks to sappy commercials, menus for two and heart-shaped boxes of chocolate, the pressure is on that this particular dinner and a movie be dripping in romance. This year, she may suggest “50 Shades of Grey.” (I’m sorry.) And you may even agree. I mean, let’s face it, isn’t February 14th (for the coupled) just an extended pre-coitus waltz? And furthermore, isn’t the whole thing a bit girly for most men? Some KFC and Netflix would suit most of them just fine….followed by sex, of course. (BEST VALENTINE’S DAY EVER.)
It got me thinking though. Is the whole romantic movie concept just a chore to them. My Husband is definitely in the minority. He likes a romantic comedy — even some cheesy ones. (Pretty Woman, anyone?) So I asked a few other dudes. Turns out there are a few movies that will not only NOT make their stomachs turn but that they actually enjoy…like, they’ve watched it alone. So, this Valentine’s Day (or really any other occassion) when you’re trying to get him to agree to a mush-fest, here are a few that apparently won’t make them gag. (Hint: They’re more open to a Rom-Com than a Rom-Dram, in my experience.)
We’ll start with the one all about lists in my blog with a list. The ever-lovable Lloyd Dobler…er, John Cusack is freshly broken up at the film’s start. This heartbreak forces him the recount his top 5 breakups. The downward spiral begins. I think men like this one because of it’s truthfulness. There are no bells and whistles. There’s no kissing in the rain. There is no musical crescendo as lovers run into each other’s arms. There’s a dude. He’s sad. He has friends to get him through. Sound familiar?
To be fair, I don’t know anyone who didn’t like this movie. In an innocent time when Adam Sandler movies were funny, even touching, we were given this amazing-sountracked, full-of-one-liners, nostalgic gem with a cuter than ever Drew Barrymore as the cherry on top. It’s just good fun with a slew of memorable character’s and the sweetest version of Rapper’s Delight I’ve ever heard.
Perfection. It’s funny. It’s witty. It’s real. And it’s what every rom-com aspires to be. Known to most as “that movie where Meg Ryan fakes an orgasm”, the real beauty lies in the subtleties. Nora Ephron was some kind of writer. Do you know any woman who can tackle dialogue like “Don’t fuck with Mr. Zero!”, “Waiter, there is too much pepper on my paprikash.” and “I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell you perfume on my clothes.” Friends become lovers and I think guys dig that idea. You really know me…yet, you love me…happily ever after.
Ok. in all honesty, this is not one of my favorites. The Hubs got me to watch it because it stars John Cusack. But he loves it. This may be one of those rare occurrences where guys actually like it more than we do. (So, maybe we’ll get the bonus points for suggesting it.) It’s all about destiny – letting things play out as they will. So, ok, I get it. Men are just lazy?
Pretty much any Bill Murray movie is going to get you in good with your fella. Lucky for us all, this is a really great one. At first, it’s about a narcissistic weather man living the same day over and over and over again. But, he slowly realizes the extra time is a blessing and not a curse. A gift he uses to make himself the man he’s always wanted to be. And in the end…he gets the girl.
Because it belongs on every list.
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